A Breastfeeding Remuera Mum

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If you haven’t read this disgusting article that was recently published at written by Shelley Bridgeman titled ‘Not all families are equal’ then I encourage you to do so.

I read it this morning, forwarded it to Ivan this afternoon, and this evening we spent a good 30 minutes ranting to each other about how disgusting this article is.

As a first time mum I am fully aware that I am no expert on anything related to babies in general. I am extremely grateful for my breasts and I am extremely grateful that I am able to easily breastfeed Mika and give her the absolute best start to life. I do what I can to make informed decisions about what is best for our baby and there really is no question that breastfeeding is the best option if possible.

In the aforementioned article, Shelly Bridgeman suggests that breastfeeding is a ‘godsend for women in developing countries’ but that for ‘well off’ women, ‘once the risks and costs of surgery are factored in (to fix the smaller/saggier boobs), bottle feeding would seem a no-brainer.’

We carry our babies for 9 months and our bodies change and adapt in ways that we couldn’t possibly have imagined. We then give birth (vaginally, hopefully and if all things go well) and we release Oxytocin – the love hormone – that is essential for bonding. (My friend Tash actually talked about it today too). Breastfeeding is the last absolute physical connection that we have with our baby. Breastfeeding also releases Oxytocin and helps with a myriad of things such as greater immune health and fewer infections for baby, protection from SIDS (or SUDI), weight-loss for mum and bonding between mum & baby.

Mika needs me. And I am able to provide her with everything she needs. The absolute essential list of baby stuff you need is actually just ‘boobs + diapers’.

I can’t think of anything more beautiful than giving life and I see breastfeeding as a continuation of this process. It makes me a little sad to think that someone who could potentially breastfeed without any troubles would choose to feed their baby formula for fear of developing saggy boobs (which breastfeeding is really not wholly responsible for anyway) or for perhaps fear of seeming unable to afford formula (?). Why would one choose to have children in the first place if one were so self-centered and vain?

Being a mum is tricky business and there is so much conflicting information out there. Opinion pieces like this make me mad because it is clearly not backed up by any scientific evidence (quote ‘reliable anecdotal evidence’) and it could potentially change a mother’s opinion on breastfeeding to the detriment of her child. Thankfully Viv Gurrey, chief executive of Parents Centres New Zealand responded with this article on the importance of breastfeeding.

So I’m a mum who currently lives in Remuera/Epsom and I exclusively breastfeed my baby because I can.

  • Nicole Jackson

    Wow Pam, that article was unbelievable! Chardonnay journalism at its best? I wonder what consitutes reliable anecdotal evidence these days? There certainly wasn’t a textbook of ‘reliable anecdotal evidence’ on my recommend texts for med school this year? Gosh, I can see how it would be easy to rant on about this for hours!! Just unbelievable. I wonder if this woman also ‘doesn’t believe’ in vaccination? Not to worry though, natural selection usually prevails ;)

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  • Rebecca Gannon

    Hi Pam,

    I love your blog!

    I’m a Mt Eden mum currently breastfeeding a two year old :0
    who would have ever thought – certainly not me. Although I am beginning to wonder when he’ll stop…

    I want to share a couple of opinions that people have actually felt necessary to voice to me as I have been feeding Ollie and said in absolute earnest:

    “Breastfeeding in public is what strippers do, they get their titties out for men to ogle” Yes I was feeding in public at the time and there was a lot more than just that said.

    From the MIL in SA: “Only the black mama’s feed their children after 3 months” – as I sat there with a 1 year old on my lap! Me: “Have you ever thought that perhaps they have it right?” The rest of that conversation is one I have to try to forget if I have any hope of continuing a relationship with my in-laws.

    Opinions especially judgemental and uneducated ones can cause so much unnecessary self doubt that new mothers really don’t need. I’m so mad that I can’t even bring myself to read that article. It’s because of that elitism in the first place that breastfeeding became second to the bottle. And it’s because of that that I’ve faced so much judgment over the educated choices that I’m making for my son. Just because society dictates it should be a certain way I’m not going to deny Ollie what he is obviously still needing.
    Every new mum makes decisions that are best for them at the time and I really hope that I wouldn’t judge anyone for doing things different to me. However a decision based on the future perkiness of ones breasts is really kinda asking for it : )

    Thanks for the chance to rant.


    PS Mika is just beautiful and you make an absolutely wonderful mum!

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  • Elspeth Knight

    Hey Pamela,

    I can’t believe what that women thinks?! It is absolutely absurd, but then again rich women have always tried to get out of breastfeeding their babies for vanity’s sake. Before formula it was a ‘wet nurse’ i.e some girl who had the misfortune to get knocked up and so hired herself out as a baby feeder to the wealthy women who didn’t want to ruin their figures or form sentimental attachments to the baby.

    I am so pro-breastfeeding!


  • all three

    Right on!